I have watched a few YouTube videos about relationships between men and women, and they are random videos that show up on Facebook. Unfortunately, the content language is usually vulgar and inappropriate. The things women say about men and the men say about women are often appalling. They talk about sexual intercourse as if it’s a standard part of dating. They talk about men as stupid individuals who need guidance from women, and these men must be conformed to a woman’s ideal man. The men have lost hope in marriage and family and are choosing to stay unmarried and seek out sexual gratification from random women who are openly willing. What a Godless society we have become. Relationships Among Men and Women are increasingly sinful and Godless, and I’m disgusted.
Genesis 3:16
“Unto the woman he [God] said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”
The curse God proclaimed on Eve and all women that have ever existed or will ever exist. From God’s perspective, a curse is defined as “Condemnation; sentence of divine vengeance on sinners.”[1] From a human perspective, it is defined as “To utter a wish of evil against one; to imprecate evil upon; to call for mischief or injury to fall upon.”[2] God rightly is punishing Eve for her sin. So, she would have sorrow and difficulty having children. But that’s not the end of the curse.
The Curse Part Two
The second part of the curse is directly related to her assuming the leadership role by communicating with the serpent. She decided to listen to Satan and eat the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (the forbidden fruit). Her decision to give the fruit to Adam also demonstrated her leadership in this situation. Unfortunately, God did not assign her the leadership role. So, what is the second part of the curse?
“And thy desire shall be to thy husband” is not just an assurance that she will desire her husband, but an assurance that she, Eve, and all women after her will desire their husband’s leadership role. If you look closely at interpersonal relationships between men and women, you can clearly see this truth. Women will assert their will on men to try to change them to their ideal man. Unfortunately, that only works for weak men, and as the man becomes more subservient, the women become less interested in him. He doesn’t become all she ever wanted but instead becomes an emasculated disaster she no longer respects. So, because she confiscates the leadership role, “he shall rule over thee.” In other words, the woman’s actions force the man to “put his foot down” and regain his leadership role.
God assigned our roles. The man is to lead, and the woman is to help. A man’s role, per scripture, is to lead his wife and family and, in a Christian family, to be the high priest of their home. A woman’s role is to help her husband succeed, grow, and excel. This action will benefit not only him but his wife and children, too. A woman’s role is vital, complementary, and equal to her husband’s leadership role. Sadly, women feel they must be the relationship’s leader, deva, and pinnacle. This desire leads to a sinful departure from their God-given role, which is the second part of the curse proclaimed by God.
What Should Women Do?
First, they must be obedient to God. He established these roles from the beginning, and they have not changed. Read the entire scripture to clearly understand what a Godly woman and wife is, and do God’s will, not your own. I can feel the defiant thoughts of Godless women as I write this. Don’t be one of them.
Second, the wife should respect her husband’s role as a leader and respect him. Ephesians 5:33 says, “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” Men crave and require respect because of how God designed and created them. Showering them with love and fulfilling their lustful desires will not satisfy a man’s needs. These things will be appreciated but will not satisfy his need to be respected by his wife and peers.
Scripture
1 Peter 3:1 - Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
1 Corinthians 11:3 - But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Colossians 3:19 - Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
1 Peter 3:7 - Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Ephesians 4:31-32 - Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Conclusion for Relationships Among Men and Women
Obedience to God is the most critical part of Godly relationships. If you don’t know the entire Bible, you will miss something. You may fall into sin if you don’t diligently control how you act or react. If a woman incessantly or periodically nags, belittles, or disrespects her husband, she is actively sinning and needs to repent.
If you are Godless, please remember that men crave respect. Men do not want long-term relationships with promiscuous, fornicating, easy women. They want long-term relations with a young virgin and, after they get married, their wife. So, why are men such “horn dogs”? Well, if a woman is offering free sex, men’s lust will be kindled, and they will often act upon that lust. Men are lustful creatures that, if not obedient to God, will have sex without regard for their safety or fear of disease.
Women have the power to withhold sex until they are married. I understand that this concept is unpopular. Radical women’s liberation assumes that women can and should be as promiscuous as men. But the truth is, neither men nor women should be promiscuous fornicators or adulterers.
Sex is for marriage and marriage alone. Sex is to be between one husband and one wife, and absolutely reject any other participants. A Christian marriage should be between one Christian man and one Christian woman until death parts them, and they must keep themselves only for each other. In this fallen world, that is not always accomplished but is the original mandate from God. Therefore, let’s do things God’s way instead of our disobedient sinful way.
[1] Webster's dictionary 1828. (n.d.). Websters Dictionary 1828. https://webstersdictionary1828.com/Dictionary/Curse, noun definition 4.
[2] Webster's dictionary 1828. (n.d.). Websters Dictionary 1828. https://webstersdictionary1828.com/Dictionary/Curse, Definition 1.
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